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End of chapter 2
Well, that time of the year has come where I stop talking for a while (yes it does happen occasionally). This blog has now been running for two years, and the audience has more than tripled since this...
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I (don’t) want a relationship
We value long-term relationships highly, but how often we do this out of status anxiety rather than a desire for happiness? It seems there’s a default belief that it’s simply better to be in a...
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Worst Valentine’s Day ever
You know what the worst thing about being single on Valentine’s Day is? It’s not the public declarations of love on Facebook by your partnered friends (how could I possibly feel spiteful because of...
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If condoms are a punishment, then what do you call AIDS?
EXPLICIT IMAGE WARNING (NSFW): ACON's Ending HIV campaign is commendable in its vision: to reduce HIV infections among gay men 80% by 2020 in New South Wales. But the trees of testing are blinding it...
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You can sell anything
Condoms are the only proven method of stopping HIV transmission, according to ACON. So why aren't they selling this idea? Many have succeeded in selling the unsellable before...let's take a look a...
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How to turn 78 without shrivelling
Coping successfully with older age is something that 78-year-old Rob Calder does remarkably well, although he laughs that he still has days when he wants to lie in bed with the blankets over his head....
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Ending HIV: I Want To Believe
Research has shown testing as prevention to be ineffective at worst and inconclusive at best, yet ACON have adopted it as a key plank in their new campaign Ending HIV, which aims to wipe out the virus...
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You can’t predict the future
When anxious or depressed, our minds become soothsayers, predicting the future with perceived certainty but little precision. We also lose the power to reason rationally, instead letting our emotions...
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Ending HIV: How much is that lemon in the window?
Universal testing fails as an HIV prevention strategy for gay men not just on the evidence, as we saw last week, but on the practicality and cost of making it work. Let's look at some real-world...
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How to live with HIV (when you think life isn’t worth living)
Karl Moser's HIV diagnosis came at a time in his life when he was self-destructing through depression. Not only has he learned how to live with HIV, but he's also reclaimed the keys to a life worth...
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That’s Mental (Bipolar Bear podcast): Episode 1
In this inaugural episode, we discuss which chocolate box is most like depression, take a potshot at the alleged 'golden era' of gay life before it was legal, and conduct a masterclass in alleviating...
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Finding Pinot: Peter Dowling’s ride
When we've finished having a laugh over Queensland MP Peter Dowling's red wine penis bath, LGBT people should be asking for an apology for anti-gay electioneering last year, in which he unashamedly...
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That’s Mental (Bipolar Bear podcast): Episode 2
Covering all manner of things from the silly to the serious this week, Phil and I rate certain beverages for the purpose of member-dipping, advise listeners on the health hazards of manscaping, discuss...
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A watched pot eventually boils
Is constant rumination and second-guessing of your thoughts and moods good for you? On some days, for every insight gained, the temperature gets a little higher and eventually the little bubbles start...
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Marriage equality in New Zealand: an end to doggy-style
Marriage is finally legal between people of the same sex in New Zealand, creating a nightmare for Mexican politician Jiménez Ortiz, who worries that we now can look each other in the face while having...
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Investigate ACON: activists call for ministerial inquiry into AIDS-corp
A Sydney-based activist group has launched a blistering attack on ACON this week, calling for a comprehensive state parliamentary review into its funding, programmes and the qualifications of its staff...
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That’s Mental (Bipolar Bear podcast): Episode 6
This week, internet censorship of gay news sites at McDonalds, A-list muscle bears who hit the skids and get humbled, reflections on the sad and lonely life of a gay sugar daddy aristocrat, giving sex...
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It’s on: ACON finally talking about condoms again
Credit where credit is due: ACON is finally talking about condoms. The latest phase of ACON’s Ending HIV campaign, of which I’ve been a vocal critic, was launched last week with a series of messages...
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That’s Mental (Bipolar Bear podcast): Episode 7
This week, Phil gives a lesson in how to kick a guy out of bed, Chris revisits his lesbian-tinged childhood with the Trixie Belden mystery novels, and how your relationship can survive a bout of severe...
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How much does a penis matter?
Attraction is such a Pandora’s box, and perhaps this is what really makes us uncomfortable. If it’s masculinity that attracts you, then why stop at transmen? What about a boyish woman? Or would the...
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